Your trauma shows up in many ways as a woman which can keep you stuck, helpless, hopeless and living in your highest purpose. That’s where I can help you.
Sometimes parts of “you” get stuck in old habits, behaviors and responses and it leaves you feeling overwhelmed and out of control.
Do you ever feel like you are constantly saying YES when in reality you want to say NO? Feeling like if you said no, the whole world would end. Relationships would fall apart, people would leave? You feel like if you say no, you will end alone, isolated, just you, yourself and thoughts.
You notice that there’s two parts of “you” the part that is high functioning, busy, gets sh*t done she’s the go getter, she is the reliable friend, the co-worker who always stays back late. But secretly you are constantly exhausted, on edge and feeling like you “pretend” all day long.
And then there’s time’s when you procrastinate, you cannot make decisions no matter how long or hard you try? There’s a feeling like "no choice is right. You feel like you can’t make a decision because honestly, you make too many already.
Or you are that girl who is repeating old patterns i.e., the self-sabotage, the eating- feeling shame- feeling guilty. Drinking a few too many glasses of wine to cope but not loving it. Old patterns, behaviors, thoughts that aren’t helpful anymore.
How Counseling works.
Counselling is a safe place to sort out your thoughts, feelings and actions without judgement. Unlike friends or family, a counsellor won’t tell you what to do; they help you see how things affect your lifestyle. In your 50-minute session we work on helping you to feel your feelings, express your needs vs distraction or simply “moving on.”
Often counseling feels like a chat with a friend, however we are tracking your body language, to help you recognise the signs of when you don’t feel good. We also listen to the words you say to understand your relationship to feelings and help you to walk away knowing how to “feel” and what do when old behaviors sneak up and leave you feeling out of whack.
How often you engage in counselling depends on a variety of things including your goals, financial situation, lifestyle commitments, etc. Most clients work with us for 6-10 sessions every week/fortnight. Our team encourages you to set up weekly appointments for the first month to help you feel comfortable, heard, seen and build a relationship with your counselor.
Not every counselor will be the right fit for you. The most common reasons people work with us include anxiety, depression, grief and loss, workplace stress, relationship breakdowns, life transitions and trauma responses i.e., people pleasing, overthinking, procrastination, etc.
At Embodied Haus we use a holistic approach to counselling. Tarini is a trained counselor who offers you practical tools and resources to help you. Every behavior including the “maladaptive” or protective behaviors serve a purpose.
Your survival-based behaviors can help you connect with others, escape/avoid distressing thoughts or emotions, self-soothe or get access to something tangible. We do not see behavior as “bad” or “wrong” but rather show curiosity to understand what your unmet needs are and how to meet it.
She implements the use of strategies from Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT), Narrative Therapy, Solution Focused Therapy, Positive Psychology and uses knowledge from neuroscience to help reframe and shift stuck behaviors.
It doesn’t have to be this way forever.
What if you can learn how to respond to your people pleasing, self-sabotage, procrastinator part and be gentle, helping that part to reframe, reconnect and express your needs without hesitation.
You can learn to say NO instead of yes without the underlying fear of being “left” feeling like nobody would stay if you set boundaries. You find your inner voice and say what you want not what people think you should. You take ownership and responsibility of how you show up.
Theres a part of you that knows these old parts of you have been there to protect you, but now they’re keeping you stuck. You crave a deeper knowing, shedding and letting to come home to yourself again.
My approach is body, mind and soul helping you work bottom up meeting your survival part and learning how to be gentle, kind and offer healing without pushing, blaming or shaming. I work with women who are READY to meet themselves with kindness, compassion and willingness to rewire their mind and create lasting shifts in their nervous system.