Why save your marriage.
Embodied Haus helps couples save their marriages at any stage by offering personalized support tailored specifically to their unique needs and circumstances. Many couples find themselves struggling because they tend to focus more on their children and daily responsibilities, unintentionally placing their relationship last on their list of priorities. If you’ve ever asked yourself whether saving your marriage is truly worth the effort, you are not alone — and the answer is a resounding yes. Relationship experts such as John and Julie Gottman emphasize that many marriages fail because couples do not fully recognize the value of their relationship until it is too late. After divorce, a significant number of people experience deep regret about giving up on one another.
Studies show that approximately 67% of first marriages end in divorce over a 40-year timespan, with about half of these divorces occurring within the first seven years. Divorce rates for second marriages can be even higher, which further highlights the challenges couples face. Because divorce has become so common, it makes even more sense to put in the effort and work harder on your marriage now while there is still time.
Many couples unknowingly take their marriage for granted and fail to give it the care and attention it truly needs to thrive. At Embodied Haus, we assist couples experiencing a variety of relationship difficulties, including poor communication, constant arguing, and intimacy problems. Even during the most challenging times, love, trust, and commitment often still remain beneath the surface. It is rarely that love is gone; rather, many couples simply struggle to express and show it effectively anymore. Here’s an added bonus for you to save your marriage, research shows people who stay married live four years longer than those who don’t! So why do many forms of couples therapy not work? Well the truth is regardless of your therapists theoritcal orientation many therapists will share that communication- more specifically, learning to resolve your conflict is the royal road to romance and enduring happy marriages. Unfortunately, this simply isn’t true. It takes work, to do the work. What are some common myths about marriage and what makes a marriage work? Here’s a few shared by Drs. John and Julie Gottman.
Personality ruins a marriage: Everyone has their challenges, hangups and extrensities these of course are not a reason they are not suitable for marriage. The truth is the key to a happy marriage isn’t having a stellar personality, but rather finding someone you connect with. It’s not your partner’s personality that is the marriage killer, but rather whom you choose and how you choose to deal with these hang ups.
Common interests keep us together: Yes, spending time in shared activities is always a bonus, however it is not the secret weapon keeping couples together! Again, you guessed it the secret sauce is in how and if you are finding shared meaning and enjoyment, simply doing something your partner likes to keep them happy doesn’t create a happy life, it creates two people who are utterly miserable doing what the other partner wants. Because that really works…
Avoiding conflict! Everyone fights, really everyone! Everyone couple has a different conflict style, and if you learn how your partner fights, and use to it to gain mastery of conflict, you will succeed! The answer isn’t to never fight it is learning the tools and techniques to fight right. No more one upping, shutting down, walking away, attacking, and defending are common problems.
Gottman Method Couples Therapy
Why does the Gottman Method save marriages? It works because it’s a research-based, clear way to improve relationships by building friendship, handling conflict well, and creating shared meaning. It shows couples how to care for their relationship to keep it strong and fulfilling over time.
Embodied Haus uses the Gottman Method to help couples across Australia access effective support through telehealth. This evidence-based approach, developed from over 40 years of rigorous research by Drs. John and Julie Gottman, is structured into three comprehensive phases: assessment, treatment, and relapse prevention.
Key benefits include:
Building strong friendship: We assist couples in deeply understanding each other's needs while encouraging expressions of fondness and respect, which together help to strengthen their emotional bond and overall connection.
Improving conflict management: Our experienced therapists guide couples in managing disagreements with calmness, steering away from destructive patterns, and transforming conflicts into valuable opportunities for emotional closeness.
Practical tools: Couples receive a wide range of resources including skills training, exercises, detailed session summaries, homework assignments, videos, podcasts, and ongoing support between sessions, all designed to foster growth and enhance their sense of being supported throughout their journey.
Our team is here to support you and your partner with weekly, fortnightly, or longer couples therapy sessions. These are offered through Telehealth, so you can join from home. To learn about our approach or book your first assessment — which includes joint and individual interviews plus a Relationship Check-up — please contact us. After this, your therapist will share the feedback and create a treatment plan with you. If you need help dealing with an affair or betrayal, please mention this on the intake form, as a special program (Attone Attune Attach) is required before starting intensive therapy. Book a 90-minute session using the "Work with Us" button.
